I was told we can't trust girls here on Shenzhenparty.com??? Why??

hello, man. I'm Rainbow.

I can be your friend if you like, I'm also new here.
Trust me.

yes, i am a girl and i have to tell you that you should listen to your friend...and i think not all the girl here are bad...remember "not all".....

Hi, I'm loryca which classfied the same gender with you

To my pointview,  firstly i should dig deep out what's the difference between shenzhen girl and other city's .
Shenzhen is a high  comsuming city with a high living speed which may bring us pain and less chance to make interpersonal communication . And in this city, most people come from other provinces and fight for a house exactly .But the real-life pressure is so much that make somebody to think maybe find a expats boyfriend also can bring them the same purpose---to be a real shenzhener.

But really ,i think their heart certainly donn't take any harm thought. They took high education . Maybe the sole private  motives is for ---change their bad situation.

Believe me , to make friends, i believe their should and exactly can have good girls inzhen.

I will add to this the dangeres to this of the games:

1. these girls want English tutors, NOT BF's, no not for sex, for free tutors  while you pay for a so called date and dinner, not a real date, they'll drive you crazy with English questions, my voice got warn out, last time. (Ill never be fooled like that again.)

2. Next yes i was fooled again, by a rel-estate agent, yes its true she tried to tell me her heart was broken and needed love, so we went out and it turned into apartment tour and she tried to get me to invest so many times, so her texts were always about apartment showings.

3. And yes like the last guys said girls who need a trade, they give you themself and you get them, the catch, marriage, just hope they shave under their arms, wooo scary thought.

Dont get fooled by girls here, they want free english tutors or to save them for me nooooo way. You want english, hire us.

We have a head on our shoulders, we can see things by eyes, hear voice by ears, feel things by heart. you should have you own judgement, then you can be a real man, not a pussy man.

Here, I have to say something to ironman510.
Tell us what do you want get from Shenzhen girls??? Why are you choicing to hang out with them? ---The fucking sex, man, the fucking free sex.
you said that the shenzhen girl just want free English tutor, but you, you just looking for free pussies. and that's it!!!
You don't want to pay meals, drinks for girls, but your want free pussies. OMG!!!
Could you please growing up, be a real man! Obviously,No pain, no gain.

Ironman is right actually. But shenzhen is what it is. It's a place for working. In my experience, real friendship does not exist here. Business Relationships however do.
It's a sad fact that most people get Business Relationship and Friendship confused.
There's a key to everything though (speaking to foreign guys here). Listen to the questions that they're asking. User your heat to sort of test the water.
For example, (and i know this sounds bad to all the girls) -
If you're on a date with a shenzhen girl, and she is only asking financial-based questions - DITCH HER immediately. Goto the bathroom (pretend) and on your way to the bathroom, just leave. The reality is that most girls here in shenzhen have the ability to pay for their own dinner. They don't need you to pay for them.

If you ever encounter that kind of situation, just be kind and send her a SMS and tell her that you're looking for a relationship, and not just a bill.

The girls are tricky, you have to be more so ;)
It might seem rude and uncultured, but girls that are asking very directed and pointed questions into your personal finances and salary are not ones that you want to look for. Any financial hiccups, and they'll just up and leave. Not much different than in our own country. They want financial stability, and they will stop at nothing to get what they want (in some cases, not all).

The other thing here....
For christsake! Learn chinese!!!
It only takes about half a year to have a decent fluency in chinese language. So take the time, pay for some classes, and study. Or do a language exchange.
If the chinese girl insists on teaching you chinese, just do a language exchange with her, and buy a cup of coffee at a caffe. It's like 20 yuan. Not like a 100 RMB dinner or anything like that.

Also, along with the chinese language part. If you refuse to speak English with them, and only speak chinese, you will find out who is really interested in knowing you, and who just wants to leech off some free english classes.
In my experience if you meet this kind of girl, and you refuse to speak english with her (unless you forget some words in chinese) she will show no interest in you at all. However, of course, if she does show interest and your speaking chinese to her, she will most likely actually communicate with you and get to know you.
Of course, this does depend on your chinese ability. There are a LOT of chinese girls here in shenzhen that just have common jobs and are not gold diggers. So, if you're looking for a relationship  - start with learning the language.
You don't need to take a university course at Shenzhen University (because their langauge program sucks ass), but you can get some books on   Spoken Chinese.

There were some books called   "Elementary Oral Spoken Chinese", but they're out of print now, and seemed to have been replaced with a much bigger, complete and ...albit Thicker book called "Chinese For Foreigners 外国人学汉语". Even has a CD !
I'm not like trying to market the book or anything, but i've been here since 2005, had to learn chinese myself (i have an intuitive sense when someone is trying to lie to me). So i have either read or bought several chinese language learning books. Most of them are crap, only a few are actually useful.
Then again, if you really want to learn chinese as it's spoken in china (southern china especially) send me a private message, and i can teach you the language required to have conversations with girls on a date , and such things like that.  There are  alot of words that are used which are not found in any books in print. Yet, they're used every day,and don't actually seem to be chinese slang.  Which i find interesting.
So, if you want me to teach you chinese (i can explain it from an american perspective - as i'm american) just buy me dinner, and we'll call that the study fee. - haha.
So like.. KFC is cool  ;)

I found that ladies who are hunting  for you guys are hoping to "upgrade" themselves and  not a matter of being able to click well, its a matter of being in the company of you guys makes her feel "upgraded"... so it is not a matter of free english course.

Look in a good relationship, there should be lots of communications between the two of you, but if conversations are limited, then please examine your relationship carefully unless you just want plenty of actions in bed only!!!

It is the same scenario 5 years ago in Sg.  But now the ladies in Sg now having relationships with the foreigners is becoz of  being able to click and mind you that the Sg girls is more westernised, highly educated, good job,good income and speaks good english.

Well guys, you should by now what type of ladies you should avoid...like some people who responded with vulgar words..

When a lady responded to you, or shown interest, tell her you are here for long term  and may not return to your own country and you are not earning much too.. and dont bring her to expensive rest to eat. Try to eat at local rests and learn to eat spicy food...hahaha...Why? coz those rests are much much cheaper than those rests selling western food !!!!! and also there are also rest like cha chan ting.. HK style rests... which serves reasonable price good food..

Girls in SZ are corrupt and selfish and greedy and do not make good gfs or wife.  Do not trust 80% of them on SZ party as I have had bad times with many of them.  Trust me , you can meet better girls than them if you meet girls like in Resturants who have jobs that you can witness. They are cute also.  Aviod girls who try to 'play' many men as websites like SZ party give them this oppunity to be tricksters. Learn C

Well, if you're trying to find a gf (a real gf) or wife (not a gold-digger) on SZ Party, you're looking totally in the WRONG place.  Yea, your right, you can goto restraunts and find nice girls that work there. They have very little education, life experience, and they don't expect to ever have anything more.

However, there is a problem with this kind of girl.....most of them are virgins, and in the minds of these girls....the man that they give it up to is the man that MUST marry them. And if you don't, you're a bastard. LOL. 

Every rose has it's thorn   ;)

As i've said before....REFUSE TO SPEAK ENGLISH WITH CHINESE GIRLS! 80% of all of the girls here in shenzhen will not contact you again after this. As it's said before, they want to feel "upgraded". If you speak english with them it will seemingly give them this feeling. They will usually give you their phone number. But it doesn't mean they'll contact you again. Play it by statistics.  80% want that upgraded feeling, so put yourself in the mindset of  "i'm only going to get a 20% kill rate". Don't take it personal.

Shenzhen girls should understand the math as well. There are a lot of us foreign guys in china that would be willing to marry a chinese girl....if it's not what we call " A Typical Shenzhen girl". But the fact is, 80% here are bitches (personality wise, not occupationaly), so that means  if us foreign guys decide to go and find the 20% of the girls in shenzhen that really are  "Nice Chinese Girls", who loses?  That's right... "The Typical Shenzhen girl" looses.

I don't want to sound racist or anything, but this is the way i see it:

there are several thousand of us....there's like...    1.8 BILLION chinese people. A good percentage of the chinese population are female. You DO THE MATH!

Or we can take it down to a more local level.  Let's say there's maybe...  10,000 foreigners (let's assume men) in Shenzhen at any one time. There is more than 7 Million (i was once told) chinese people in shenzhen. This is the Inner city districts. Not the outer suburbs.  If we do the math here, let's say that 25% of the population is women (for the sake of an example).

That is   1,750,000   women  to  10,000 men.

of course, this 25% is WAY off. It's actually much higher. If you went outside and just took a random sampling of the gender of chinese people on any given day from monday to friday...you would probably find that closer to 50% or more are... Female.

So the  Foreign Man to Chinese Girl  ratio is an ungodly high one.

Even if 80% of the girls are stright-up bitches,  and 20% of them aren't..... the odds are still good that i can pickup a girlfriend and nearly any place in shenzhen within 1 week.

And to finally piss off those "Shenzhen girls" that think they're worth something......

"Shenzhen Is a Pussy Factory"

SO DEAL WITH IT!

The fact is that 20% of the girls here are EASILY fuckable. and all Less than 30 years old. Most of them less than 25 years old.

And finally, there are a growing number of foreigners here in shenzhen that are becoming more and more fluent in chinese.  Our ability to chat with a chinese girl, make her laugh, smile, and feel something becomes much more easy.  Most girls are willing to put out as long as you give them a feeling.  That's why chinese girls are wanting to feel  "Upgraded".

Sure a chinese guy can one day buy them a house, and surely give them a family, but....in my experience, the woman usually is always emotionaly unfufilled. Chinese men usually don't give their women any real feeling. Not all chinese men, but most of them (from what i've been told).

And for the record, just incase some silly shenzhen girl comes back with a reply....  i don't fuck all of the girls that i date or talk to - nor is that my intention.  I'm like a spy, my purpose of talking to chinese girls (in the past) is to find out as much about how they think as possable, so as to increase my statistical chances of getting "free pussy".  Free pussy is everywhere in shenzhen....if you know how to find it.

The funny thing is.....if i just want pusy, ....why would i spend 200 RMB or more on dinner (and get nothing in return), when i can goto LuoHu, pay 150 yuan, and get a bitch that will do anything i tell her to do.

Us foreigners always get what we want, and we know how to get it without too much effort....Shenzhen Girls.....do they get what they want all the time, and easily?  ... I doubt it. Not even chinese men are that silly.  It's usually why most girls here in shenzhen don't stay here for that long (usually), they go back to their home town when they get a few yuan in their pocket.

maybe everyone should treat others sincerity that could be treated with truthfulness.

yes, and if we lived in a world that was 100% peaceful and kind, that would be possable.

but as you know, we don't.

you can live in a fairy tale world if you want. however the rest of us live in the real world.

we don't go around  smiting everyone we see, but we're just more carfull...

it seems there are a lot "professors" in "domain of Shenzhen girls" here...

you still need to learn about this city and Chinese society, but mostly you should understand even in your country, in your city, there are "bad woman" and "good woman" too, just like in Shenzhen...so you just need keep a sense, you can find some true friends here when you show your true heart...

  some comments about shenzhen girls really shocked me here. I don't know some foreigners are so awful and trashy.  yes, I am the one of these Shenzhen girls.

This is shenzhen, we are Chinese people. maybe the chinese people and our way are different with other people. but, if you are into this place, please try to know why.  a thing has its cause.

also, we all are human, there is nothing really different. 

you want to make new friends and have fun, right?

yes, shenzhen girls want to take free english lesson.

you want free sex with many shenzhen girls, right?

yes, shenzhen girls want to have sex with different men before they have a serous relationship. 

you can earn lot of money in shenzhen city,  right?

yes, the chinese land lords, taxi drivers, the business agents, restautants, and your employees earn a lot from you.

guys, you know it is fair in this world, or just sooner or later.

The way you treat people is that you are treated.

Please be nicer, no matter when and where.

I was told we can't trust foreigners here in China .Why  ?  LOL

Good point ,Lindafu.

every coin has two faces with front and back. you have to fliter the bad one for the good one.

At some point, I do believe some girls are really into "Western Food".If you know what i meant.

this is demand and supply relationship. Think before you act. That's it.

I just can't understand why nobody here criticize that horny foreigner ? You all agree on whoring? I am seriously doubt that.

Hi, i just back Shenzhen end of last year, for my understanding, most of Shenzhen girls are nice and young, Shenzhen is young city, so i like  to stay here.

i agree with  Liu xue 2.; you know what, i have a client from Turky. He is really annoying. He wants to sleep all of our company's female staff/. he is really super-duper sick.

Agreed. Can't really trust girls not only on Shenzhenparty.com and those ones in China in general. Like the old saying, don't trust anyone easily. Basically, chinese girls mentality is different from the ones in foreign country.

You'll learn to understand in time.